Comments on: Aptly Named

By: s. k-c.

s. k-c. — Fri, 16 May 2008 00:23:51 +0000

HI A!! I miss you, and I missed your blog. I ditto all of the love and support that everyone, including my J, has shared. And I have to tell you, my jaw dropped and my hand flew to my mouth when you said that your m-i-l joined the church. I cannot believe that. I would be pissed. Seriously, you have a right to something that’s yours. I love her, too, but if it were me, I’d be ticked. Maybe she’ll get bored and stay home to watch Mr. E so you and your wife can go. Or maybe, at some point, you might feel comfortable enough to share some of your feelings, and she might just get it. She is a social worker after all. You and E are going through a lot, and you do need something that’s just yours. We’ll be down next weekend to bring our love and support. I know that technically we’re an extension of E’s family, but hopefully that just means that we can appreciate the craziness and empathize… And we can lend an ear, and a shoulder, and give you a great big hug! With love…

By: Kate

Kate — Thu, 15 May 2008 06:12:23 +0000

Hi, I’ve been a faithful reader of your blog and two moms are better than one for over a year and a half and just want to reach out say hello and send some cyber support your way. Being a new mom is hard, it is even harder when your partner is the birth mom. I understand, I’ve been there. So many changes so fast would throw anyone in a ditch. I can feel the pain and fear of the unknown in your writing. You’re doing the right thing talking about your feelings.

By: Lo

Lo — Tue, 13 May 2008 23:40:09 +0000

I’m number 8.
That stuff sounds really, really tough. And moving to E’s space…I can see why that would be so hard.

I’m glad you two talked about it, and I’m glad you’re going to make time for you two/three. Maybe you could think about having some time for just you, to explore your new neck of the woods? (Just a thought. Don’t know when I’d do it….)

By: dolly

dolly — Mon, 12 May 2008 18:16:21 +0000

Yay, you’re back!

Hehe…I cannot relate more to your impulse to retreat inside yourself when it comes to big transitions and stress. I’m glad to hear you’re talking things out with E. instead of holding it all inside.

Here’s my advice as a longtime transition-hater who constantly forces herself to make transitions. Don’t fight your feelings, but keep telling yourself that they are temporary. After a few months (and once you get a teaching job, which you WILL), things will start to feel better and more normal. And once you finish out your first year, you will finally start feeling settled and at home. Just know these things take time, take care of yourself, and keep talking to E.

Oh, and come visit Georgia.

By: mylesbianlife

mylesbianlife — Sun, 11 May 2008 22:55:09 +0000

Six!

I missed you, funny how we were on sort of the same wavelength. I agree with J k-c Sending you support and love! And Humor!

By: Jude

Jude — Sat, 10 May 2008 13:59:48 +0000

Five readers!

Seriously, I hope things turn around for you soon. I wish we’d been able to get together before you left. I would have helped with Mr. E while you packed.

By: j. k-c.

j. k-c. — Sat, 10 May 2008 12:56:53 +0000

Oh A — I am glad to hear from you. You have had lots of MAJOR transitions in your life over the past several months and I think that would be hard on anyone. I’m glad that you are connecting with E and trying to take care of yourself. You are on your way to the stability you crave. And there are many of us supporting and loving you!

By: ohchicken

ohchicken — Sat, 10 May 2008 04:24:53 +0000

i’m still reading too. and hoping that peace and structure and friends surround you very soon. i am SO with you about being rough with transitions. i’m trying so hard to be mindful with this one, but it’s simply hard.

you will teach soon. i’m sure of it.

By: j

Sat, 10 May 2008 02:02:13 +0000

xoxo

And, we’re like, much closer to you now, even if you just want a day trip away.

By: maeby

maeby — Fri, 09 May 2008 22:27:09 +0000

Still here, still reading While I haven’t had to undertake all of those stressful things at once, I can certainly empathize with many of them on an individual basis. Give yourself a pat on the back for managing to get through ALL of them, pretty much at the same time. I hope that things will start to settle into a routine, allowing you to feel a little bit more relaxed & focus on all of the good things. Sometimes being overwhelmed has a way of obscuring what those good things are. Hang in there!